Wednesday, July 31, 2013

OUR WORSE CRITIC

Did you know that the greatest critic in your life is not someone else, but rather, it is YOU!!! Literally everyday we are all critical of ourselves in some kind of way about something. Society has taught us that we are not stylish enough if we are not driving the newest, latest, car or rocking the newest, hottest hairstyle and wardrobe...we are not good enough if we are not going to the greatest colleges, or entertaining the likes of the hottest celebrities out there. There are billboards all around us that tell us how to get the thinnest body possible because if we are not a size 2, 4, 6, or 8 then we are simply too heavy! Seriously, that along is enough pressure on us but then we come along and put more pressure on ourselves to actually meet the expectations of this cruel, cold society we live in. Think about it...how many times a day have you sat and wondered how you would look if you were maybe 4 or even 14 dress sizes smaller, or how much prettier would you be if you looked more like a super model and less like the nameless, faceless female that everyone tends to overlook?!! Ladies and even gentleman we have got to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to be what society says and work with what we got. What are we teaching our young girls and boys by daily trying to fit into a mode that practically condemns having even one imperfection?

So often we hear so much about embracing who we are and loving the skin we are in and then somewhere else, someone else is telling us that "there is no need to have imperfections and flaws" all you have to do is fix this, cut that, change this, change that....and like so many folks around, we end up giving in to the pressure and we begin to question God about why He created us the way He did! Come on, let's stop this epidemic, this perilous disease that is killing us each and every day. Parents have you ever thought about how many times your child goes to school and is laughed at, looked at, and teased just because they are not skinny enough, tall enough, pretty enough,smart enough, dark or light enough? Have you ever thought about the things that they go through that is destroying their self worth and self esteem. We cannot sit by and continue down this path! If we as adults struggle and criticize ourselves, how much worse is it for our children out there? How do we stop being our own worse critic and get back to loving what we see when we look in the mirror? I am not saying that we have to embrace obesity or not try to promote a healthy lifestyle in every area, however,  I am saying we teach people how to love and accept us...but how can that happen if we do not love and accept ourselves? Who can we turn to if we stand in the mirror and hate who we are, what we are, and where we are? Let's make a decision today that we shall NO LONGER BE OUR OWN WORSE CRITIC ever again!

Friday, June 7, 2013

WORDS, (THEY HAVE POWER!!)

No matter how many times someone tells you that you are not good enough, keep telling yourself just how good you are! Someday you will either believe the lies of others or the truth of your OWN words. There is a stupendous amount of power that we use to create and form our thoughts and the world....never think or speak that which you do not want to create. Envision yourself as an artist or a painter, your words give life to the canvass on which you are painting. A great artist or painter knows that in order for their work of art to become a Masterpiece there must be time and attention given to it. The Masterpiece is an expression of the artist and it must portray this true fact.

Someone once told me, " your words have color to them, they can paint a broad beautiful picture of warmth for everyone, or they can paint a broad cloud of darkness for everyone. You get to decide how others see you and the world you live in and invite them to partake in." I say the same thing to you that was said to me, and then I challenge you, whomever you may be, to paint your world with your words. Here is an example: Each and everyday there are many opportunities for us to paint a world that will be full of sunshine or full of clouds and gloom and doom. There is always a chance that we will encounter something that will cause us pain, anger, frustration, and other numerous emotions; however, there is a way to change the outlook of whatever may lie before us. Words have the ability to move all of us in ways that we cannot begin to fathom and it also has that same ability to make or break us. Whoever said that "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," tidbit, clearly had no clue of the power of words...or they walked and lived in heavy denial of it! Think of all those who have been torn apart by the hurtful words of friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers! Think about times in your own life when someone has mishandled your heart, mind, or emotions with the words they allowed to escape their lips. Who has the time to constantly be cut up by negativity, rudeness, resentment, unforgiveness, or just blatant hatred of another human being? What kind of life is that for anyone to live, especially when words are forever going to be a part of verbal communication! HERE IS A POINT TO PONDER: IF THE WORDS THAT I SPEAK TODAY WILL CAUSE ME REGRET TOMORROW, THEN I HAD BETTER CHOOSE TO PAINT USING A DIFFERENT COLOR AND BRUSH! SOMEONE ELSE' LIFE IS YOUR CANVASS! REMEMBER THIS SCRIPTURE, LIFE AND DEATH IS IN THE POWER OF THE TONGUE AND THEY THAT LOVE IT, WILL EAT THE FRUIT THEREOF....PLAINLY PUT,BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SPEAK OVER YOURSELF AND OTHERS, OTHERWISE YOU MAY FIND THAT YOU HAVE THE BITTER TASTE OF DEATH LEFT IN YOUR MOUTH AND YOUR LIFE.

Death's Reality

Death,

It has a grip like no other, the magnitude of it hurts on many levels, and the harshness of it can sometimes shatter even the toughest soul. Why, is the simple, yet complex question that we all find ourselves asking. Why does it have to cut so deep, hurt so bad, eat away at us, and then leave an open wound that seems impossible to heal?! Although we know it is a part of the process of life; it is never any easier to let a loved one go. It will never get easier to say goodbye to someone who has come into your life and blessed it! Have you ever sat back and thought about how precious it is when someone touches your heart. Have you ever noticed how their smile, their words of kindness, generous acts of love, and moments of harsh truth has made your life beautiful? I have and if truth be told, you have too. Begin to look back over the memories you have created with loved ones and friends, think back to the very day they entered your heart.... What do you see, pay attention to how you feel, breathe in the scent of their spirit, and then smile. God has given us the ability to hold onto the ones that we love through those precious memories we have created with them. The bond that we share is so powerful, so surreal, and yet so strong that nothing can break it. As much as it hurts when death hits, as much as it knocks the breath out of our lungs, and punches us in the guts, it still has no power over life! While you may read this and think " how is that even possible?" Imagine this one thing for me and yourself, if death was so powerful..every life that has crossed over from life to death, would have taken with it, all the memories that we have ever created. Every single moment of happiness, joy, anger, frustration, fear, peace, hope, and love would have been laid to rest with our loved one! Without denial; death is indeed very painful to face, yet it is what helps to make life so much more meaningful. Life and Death go hand- in- hand and while many will never admit that fact; it still never changes the reality of it.

One cannot celebrate the joys of life without mourning the sadness of death and one cannot mourn death without celebrating the joys of life. Hold those dear to you; so close to your heart, embrace them, love on them, and always celebrate them, and then when they are gone from here; embrace the memories that have been created, always thanking God for the opportunity to have been touched by an angel! After all...you never know when they will be taken away from here.

Monday, November 26, 2012

This Is My Truth...What Is Yours?

Tell me what do you see when you look at me? What comes to mind when I walk into a room? What words do you use to express your opinion of me? Am I just some lost face in the crowd of thousands, or do you see my soul and wonder what is in the depths of my heart? Like so many before you and even, after you, along the way there will be someone else who will deem me insignificant. Ha! Its okay because at one point and time, I tried hard to live my life without being noticed. I was once the girl who tried to hide way back in the corner and stay to myself, trying desperately not to draw attention to me. Go ahead, let the question that your mind has formed; escape your lips.."Was it because you were ugly, fat, geeky looking, etc?" My answer to that is simple: No! I was none of those things and yet there was a part of me that did not feel good enough. You see, I have always had a curvaceous body and very good looks.. plenty of guys wanted to get close to me, but most for the WRONG reasons! It had started to seem like what was supposed to be a gift from God was quickly becoming a nuisance. At some point and time in life every girl wants a guy to look at her and drool over her,praise her for her intelligence and star quality, she wants to know the feeling of walking into a room and having all eyes instantly on her, she wants to be envied by others as having a shape that had to be God given! Every female wants to know what its like to have guys call her name just trying to get a few moments of her attention while others look on, waiting and wondering when their time will come...Let me just say that I had all of these things at one point and time and while I should have been enjoying it, I was finding myself questioning why it had to be me; why did I have to be that girl that many other people wish they could be and have? It wasn't until one day while looking in the mirror crying and asking God to know why He made me like He had, that He began to speak to me. I remember standing with tears staining my cheeks and my shirt; I began to hear clearly these words, " I created you and I made you special and beautiful. When will you believe that you are a beautiful masterpiece?" Now...for some of you, this may not hold any special value or significance, but to others it may mean the world. Smile! Now go with me for a moment to a space in your mind, did you ever feel like you were in a dark hole? Like the world did not see you as you truly were or more importantly; you did not see yourself as God sees you? Be it as it may....today I can now say that this was once"My Truth!" Ladies, I do not know where you may be in life:young, middle aged, older, white, black, Hispanic, Latina, Asian, etc. The point is this: NEVER LET yourself or anyone distort the beauty of who God created you to be! It has not been until I began to own my Truth and live and love me for me, that things started to change! I began to embrace and enjoy all of me and yes, that includes my flaws and all. I look in the mirror today and I smile and thank our Creator for His "Infinite Wisdom" to create such a beautiful work of art...you know the kind that can only be enjoyed by those who truly know the value and worth of Timeless Masterpieces? That...

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Its always amazing to me how life permits everyone many paths to take! Some people have similar journeys and yet different experiences with each one. Have you ever sat and really began to ponder on some of your own experiences and wonder how you made it through?

In life, there are many broken pieces along the way, many doors that have seemingly remained shut; and many folk who have appeared to have the best intentions and haven't. Nevertheless you; like I, have managed to keep standing in the midst of it all. An abundance of us have adapted to many of the storms of life and we have come out proudly proclaiming, " I am Still Here." Now this is not just a cliche' or a casual mantra, but....rather a declaration that what should have taken us out and defeated us. has only revealed the resiliency in us!

When we NOT only face struggles, heartaches, and setbacks but also plow through them and overcome them......we have an opportunity to see what God has placed inside of us! This is exactly why it is detrimentally important to realize that there are different paths and journeys for all of us. Each experience is what produces that Amazing Victory shout that simply says once again, " I Am Still Here!" Please understand that anytime that we as individuals, recognize and admit that we have struggles, we empower ourselves to move forward. Seems totally crazy, right?! It's not. Life is sure to present to us, many knock out-knockdown challenges at some time or another. Even in the midst of all that we go through, we do not have to let it rob of us of all our strength and joy. While living life, we should all have the opportunity to see that even in our lowest places and darkest nights there is still a reason to smile!

Embrace that there is purpose in your life and its only discovered through the very tests and trials we encounter and overcome. Although your story and adventures may be totally opposite and different from mine....we all have come through some things that we look back on now and say "I Am Still Here"

Friday, October 19, 2012

No Love Lost

A whisper, a memory, a picture in a frame, the scent of you quickly envelopes me, and then everything quickly fades away. The very soft tone of your voice, the bright smile on your face; these are just some of the things that I will no longer have anymore. Gone are the days when I could call your name and you would answer and swiftly come to my aid....oh I miss you and wish you were still here;yet God chose to take you away. Some may wonder if I'm bitter or just drowning in my pain, others may assume that I am healed and simply drifting back to yesterday, but there really are no words left to say! How can we describe the pillar of a woman that you were? Ever so carefully your love and prayers held this family together and now all we have is this empty space. Some people tell us that the tears will somewhere in time fade away; yet in my eyes they seem to remain. Although six years has passed since you've been gone we can now smile and say.....there has been no love lost!!Now we dry our eyes and carry on the legacy of your name and all that we've learned along the way. Granny we love you and someday we shall meet again face-to-face.


Monday, October 1, 2012

What Love Feels Like

Some people equate love with a feeling of constant butterflies in their stomach, the temporary smile on their faces, or the warm sensation that seems to engulf their entire body and never seems to fade away! Now, as wonderful as these things may be,they are not an accurate description of what love really feels like!!!!! Have you ever been loved with the love that rocks you to the core of your being? the love that gets in your bones and metastasizes to every organ in your body....this love stands in the midst of every trial and storm and it doesnt waver due to the calamity that tries to rise against it!!!!! This is the kind of love that you cant keep to yourself no matter how hard you try and as good as it feels, this love is sometimes hard to come by! Please carefully pay attention to what I am saying.....and ask yourself this one question,"have I really come into contact with this love yet?" we all want to experience what love feels like before we close our eyes and transition to death! Be ready to open your heart and receive it because as the wind blows, it will surely find its way to the heart thats open to it! Love is not meant to be based off of feelings alone, for you see, our feelings are fickle and can change at the drop of a dime! I encourage you to examine your perception of it and then let it flow!!